Tips for scoring with the opposite sex

by on December 13, 2008 at 6:39 pm in Books | Permalink

Yes, reading:

"The men polled said they would be most impressed by women who read
news websites, Shakespeare or song lyrics. Women said men should have
read Nelson Mandela’s biography or Shakespeare."

Here is the link.  46% of the surveyed men lie about what they have read — to impress partners — and 33% of the surveyed women admit to lying about their reading habits.  In fact it’s the second most likely form of lying (or so people say) for purposes of sexual conquest, with lying about one’s own sexual past as the most likely form of lying.

And for teenagers? (presumably British):

Top of the list to impress a teenage boy are Facebook and MySpace
followed by text messages, Harry Potter and song lyrics. Magazines like
Zoo and Nuts are number seven. To impress a teenage girl, it is the
same top two, followed by song lyrics, cookery books and Harry Potter.
Reassuringly, Jane Austen is number seven.

Here are the actual lists but of course I believe people are lying about those too.

TomHynes December 13, 2008 at 7:08 pm

Top ten reads to impress a woman:

8) Emails

Really? I can get laid because I read e-mails?

pants December 13, 2008 at 8:23 pm

and all this time i thought i was only supposed to read Cosmo to get a man (and once I got one, keep reading to learn how to please him in 583 different ways!)

anyway, why do the lists have very specific things, like “The Long Walk to Freedom,” and very broad things, like “Shakespeare”? The FT IS a current affairs web site, and I think a female would be far more impressed by a male who said he read Jane Austen than vice versa.

Tim December 13, 2008 at 10:02 pm

*sigh* If only economic geography were on the list.

Paul December 13, 2008 at 11:47 pm

Robert: Well, probably part of how impressed they are is that they’ve heard of the book. ;)

Steve Sailer December 14, 2008 at 12:46 am

The girls today in society
Go for classical poetry,
So to win their hearts one must quote with ease
Aeschylus and Euripides.
But the poet of them all
Who will start ‘em simply ravin’
Is the poet people call
The bard of Stratford-on-Avon.

Brush up your Shakespeare,
Start quoting him now.
Brush up your Shakespeare
And the women you will wow.
Just declaim a few lines from “Othella”
And they think you’re a heckuva fella.
If your blonde won’t respond when you flatter ‘er
Tell her what Tony told Cleopaterer,
And if still, to be shocked, she pretends well,
Just remind her that “All’s Well That Ends Well.”
Brush up your Shakespeare
And they’ll all kowtow. …
If your goil is a Washington Heights dream
Treat the kid to “A Midsummer Night Dream.”
If she fights when her clothes you are mussing,
What are clothes? “Much Ado About Nussing.”
If she says your behavior is heinous
Kick her right in the “Coriolanus.”

– Cole Porter

SheetWise December 14, 2008 at 1:11 am

I’ve always found quotes from Shakespeare to draw blanks. I just told them it was from Jethro Tull. That worked fine.

Anonymous December 14, 2008 at 6:02 am

Perhaps there’s more than one form of lying going on here. People will not only lie to potential partners about what they’ve read, they will lie to pollsters (or deceive themselves) about what impresses them about the opposite sex.

If you ask people about themselves and their own preferences, they will sometimes go into “New Year’s resolution mode” and describe the person they wish they were, the things they wish they did more of, and the things they wish they preferred (“sure, I prefer celery sticks to cookies”). Sometimes advertisers and marketers are burned by this (“sure, I prefer your new McLean burger to the bacon triple cheeseburger and will buy it often after it is introduced”).

Anonymous December 14, 2008 at 9:05 am

Perhaps there’s more than one form of lying going on here. People will not only lie to potential partners about what they’ve read, they will lie to pollsters that they read….

Teenagers read?

In my experience carpooling and being around teenagers, the high school kids who talk knowledgeably about books they have read, rather than the Cliff Notes versions, are few and far between.

When pressed, the kids who do read non-school books were read to almost daily when they were infants up to about 5 or 6 years old, when they started reading much more to themselves.

If you want a child to become a reader, start reading to the child at birth, read to the child every day, take the child to the library and get them a library card when they qualify, and keep good reading material around the house, including good magazines and a good daily paper. And let them see you reading.

As they get older, send them links to articles that you find well written and interesting. At some point they will start sending you things they find interesting.

Yancey Ward December 14, 2008 at 11:19 am

Damn it, Sailer! I was all set to impress people with that and you beat me to it!

Ok. That was a lie.

BH December 14, 2008 at 3:10 pm

From the NYT:

JOCELYN BOWIE was thrilled by the invitation to join a book group. She had just returned to her hometown, Bloomington, Ind., to take an administration job at Indiana University, and thought she had won a ticket to a top echelon. “I was hoping to network with all these women in upper-level jobs at I.U., then I found they were in the book group,† she said. “I thought, ‘Great! They’ll see how wonderful I am, and we’ll have these great conversations about books.’ †

For more.

babar December 14, 2008 at 4:52 pm

when i first read the title of this blog post, i conflated scoring in the sense that it was meant with credit scoring. my mind then leapt to think that there was an analogous agency to fitch or moody which would attach a rating to the goods at question, damaged or otherwise. clearly we need something of the sort with all the fraud going on nowadays on dating sites.

Diff Andrew December 15, 2008 at 10:59 am

My best method for scoring with the opposite sex is to encourage them to shoot the 12 footer while I drive and dish.

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MiniME February 21, 2011 at 1:18 pm

Sex has become something that is too much publicized.Wow Porn for example is trying to keep the sensuality in their movies.This is a rare thing these days especially when the demands are so big for pornographic materials.

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