The culture that is New York/Los Angeles? (nanny markets in everything)

by on February 28, 2013 at 2:26 am in Economics, Education | Permalink

Dr. Heller, or the Nanny Doctor, as she calls herself (she has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology), is a consultant for an age of anxious parenting, acting as a mediator of sorts for parent and caretaker, at a rate of $200 an hour. She draws from her experiences, both as a mother to two daughters under 3 (she is married to Matt Donnelly, a TV writer), and as a former nanny to clients like the director Stephen Gaghan and his wife, Minnie Mortimer, a fashion designer and socialite.

“I remember her solving a conflict with the kids, who were 5 and 6,” Ms. Mortimer said. “She had them calm down and use their ‘I’ statements. Our little girl said, ‘I don’t feel safe when you throw a Lego at my head.’ Our boy said, ‘I feel that throwing a Lego at your head is the only way to get your attention.’ She treated them with such respect and dignity.”

The article is here.  For the pointer I thank @DanielMoerner.

1 Steve Sailer February 28, 2013 at 4:04 am

I love New York. Everybody in Flyover America should dispassionately study what New Yorkers do (not, of course, what they say) for lessons in how to get what they want.

2 Ray Lopez February 28, 2013 at 4:05 am

Seems she is catering to their parents. Don’t kids learn more from a mild spanking on the fanny than from “I” statements? Of course you could go to jail for parenting like that. No I don’t have kids.

3 Meegs February 28, 2013 at 5:29 am

Those statements will get them what they want when they grow up.

4 Andrew' February 28, 2013 at 5:46 am

If they make it.

5 Andrew' February 28, 2013 at 4:41 am

Are we talking Legos here or Duplos?

6 babar February 28, 2013 at 1:04 pm

kids were over 3, so probably legos. duplos exist only cuz legos are a choking hazard for younger kids.

7 David February 28, 2013 at 6:24 am

There’s no such thing as ‘a Lego’. Lego is plural. That’s ‘a Lego brick’ or ‘piece’ that they’re throwing. You’d have thought a nanny could have put them right on that, at least.

8 Andrew' February 28, 2013 at 6:27 am

And to be fair, throwing a straight jab at her head would surely get her attention.

9 anon February 28, 2013 at 8:26 am

My sisters and my daughters were all made a lot more resilient (tougher) by older brothers.

10 Careless February 28, 2013 at 9:54 am

As the father of a 4 year old, it’s ridiculously easy to tell which of my daughter’s classmates have older brothers. Much harder to tell who has an older sister.

As for the article: stupid, but probably harmless

11 Andrew' February 28, 2013 at 1:05 pm

They are the ones with 6×2 dimples?

12 Careless February 28, 2013 at 4:16 pm

This is going back to when they were a little younger, but it’s the ones who are using super-powers to kill everyone else.

13 Go Kings, Go! February 28, 2013 at 12:18 pm

Dr. Heller missed an opportunity to introduce young Mortimer to baseball, or, given their tenor, Lacrosse.

14 Finch February 28, 2013 at 9:20 am

Surely they threw an assemblage of pieces? A single brick is unlikely to phase a child. It should have been ‘I feel that throwing Lego at your head is the only way to get your attention.’

Vaguely on topic link to awesomeness:

15 NNM4 February 28, 2013 at 6:26 am

Perhaps there should be a corollary to the “There is No Great Stagnation” category, called “Service Economies Create New Jobs Too” or something like that.

16 Marie February 28, 2013 at 7:45 am

Well, at least she seems to advocate for the nannies too, and at a pretty reasonable price.

17 dearieme February 28, 2013 at 7:54 am

“Dr Heller”: hee, hee, hee.

18 Alan H March 1, 2013 at 11:44 am

This proves that a diploma mill with, typically, 3,000 graduate psych students, is providing just the sort of “therapists” LA and NYC need.

19 Brian Donohue February 28, 2013 at 8:58 am

OK, those kids freak me out a little.

20 Jimmy Buffet's Nephew February 28, 2013 at 9:38 am

Preying of the fearful is generally a good business model.

21 dead serious February 28, 2013 at 9:49 am

Usually works best where there is a lot of disposable funding to be tapped. E.g. rich parents, the USG, etc.

22 j r February 28, 2013 at 9:59 am

“That was her suggestion for Desiree Gruber, an executive producer of “Project Runway” who is married to the actor Kyle MacLachlan, with whom she has a 4-year-old son, Callum. They live on two coasts and employ four nannies.”

This is not the culture of New York. This is the culture of the elites, who are highly mobile, but often find themselves in New York because of their work. The overwhelming majority of people in New York are working and middle class. Even the upper-middle class yuppies that aspire to this sort of foolishness aren’t in a position to pull it off.

23 Thomas February 28, 2013 at 11:14 am

More specifically, this is LA. At least, that’s where the good Dr is.

24 byomtov March 1, 2013 at 8:23 pm


25 Chuck Currie February 28, 2013 at 10:38 am

Our we breeding “parenting” out of our DNA? or, are we breeding “stupidity” in?


26 msgkings February 28, 2013 at 12:35 pm

‘We’ aren’t. The superrich maybe, but then haven’t they always left the childrearing to others?

27 Dave from Boston February 28, 2013 at 10:51 am

Minnie is an Heiress to the Standard Oil fortune. I’m guessing her fashion design is not profitable and a hobby and that she’s a full time socialite.

I’m also guessing that there hasn’t been a real mother in her family for generations and that she, and her mother, etc, were brought up by a nanny or someone other than a parent.

28 derek February 28, 2013 at 11:23 am

Maybe she should get Woodward and Sperling to sit down. Sperling “I want to send a drone to circle your house and fire a hellfire when you are sitting on the can”. Woodware “I see you as a strutting punk that needs to be knocked down a notch or two”.

Should work fine.

29 johnnyo February 28, 2013 at 11:26 am

Re-file under “The culture that is LA”. Although reported in the NY Times, her practice is based on Beverly Hills. (Though at one of her clients is cited as “Bi-Coastal”).

30 babar February 28, 2013 at 1:05 pm

you want more stuff like this, surveil

31 Turing Test February 28, 2013 at 8:49 pm

This entry reminds of an previous post Tyler made regarding the nouveau-rich in China … The gist of that post, if I recall correctly, was to point out the practice of wasteful spending on luxury items no one really needs

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