How to boast without looking bad

by on January 14, 2010 at 5:09 am in Education | Permalink

…context is everything when it comes to boasting. If Avi's friend raised the topic of the exams, Avi received favourable ratings in terms of his boastfulness and likeability, regardless of whether he was actually asked what grade he got. By contrast, if Avi raised the topic of the exams, but failed to provoke a question, then his likeability suffered and he was seen as more of a boaster. In other words, to pull off a successful boast, you need it to be appropriate to the conversation. If your friend, colleague, or date raises the topic, you can go ahead and pull a relevant boast in safety. Alternatively, if you're forced to turn the conversation onto the required topic then you must succeed in provoking a question from your conversation partner. If there's no question and you raised the topic then any boast you make will leave you looking like a big-head.

There is more here.  Have you ever wondered, by the way, why I ask for topic requests so often?

JSK January 14, 2010 at 5:20 am

Hmmm.. a bit obvious isnt it?

JonathanWR January 14, 2010 at 10:14 am

Related trick: at my previous job the new boss began his tenure with an extensive, anonymous questionnaire asking for everyone’s ideas for a better workplace. He then proceeded to institute a number of reforms drawn (he said) from those suggestions. Of course many of the suggestions were rather general, and he is the one who chose which of the “requested” reforms to implement, and how specifically to implement them. But of course the ideas really came from us, the employees; he was not imposing on us. Right?

vm January 14, 2010 at 10:47 am

ha ha that was awesome–Tyler just said he doesn’t even need our questions, he just doesn’t want to appear too full of himself.

londenio January 14, 2010 at 11:46 am

In relation to vm’s comment: How many “loyal MR readers” are fictitious characters to dampen the perception of boasting?

selfreview January 14, 2010 at 2:53 pm

Well since you mention it, I am a pretty good boaster, very discreet.

zbicyclist January 14, 2010 at 5:22 pm

“Have you ever wondered, by the way, why I ask for topic requests so often?”

Tyler, how about a list of 10 topics you know absolutely nothing about?

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