Ben Casnocha asks about trust and infidelity

I believe Ben is slightly inconsistent:

In an earlier post I asked, Would you trust less a business partner who cheats on his/her spouse? Or do you completely separate personal and professional?

My answer is I would trust the person less in a business or corporate environment, but would still trust enough to maintain a relationship.

Here's a question for people like myself, people who do not strictly separate bedroom character from boardroom character:

Suppose that you were on an NBA team and you knew one of your
teammates was cheating on his wife. Would you trust him less on the
court? Trust is vitally important in basketball, just as it is
important in business.         

My answer to this new scenario is no, I would not trust my point guard (who's cheating on his wife) any less on the court.

Why do I answer the questions differently?

Some of his readers think that trust in a point guard is automatic but I say ha.

When it comes to trust, I suggest that compartmentalization is the best default assumption. The cynical view, which you will never find on this blog, is that the NBA example starkly illustrates that an unfaithful man is driven by opportunity, not by a differing basic inclination.  Putting that aside, Hitler was supposedly nice to his dog and Nixon never cheated on his wife.  This is one reason why I don't wish to condemn people when I observe what is possibly their intellectual dishonesty.  Even if the person has questionable morals in public discourse, he or she still might be more likely to give his life in a foxhole or perform other noble acts.

Removed from context, it's very difficult to judge people as a whole.


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