The culture that is New York/Los Angeles? (nanny markets in everything)

Dr. Heller, or the Nanny Doctor, as she calls herself (she has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology), is a consultant for an age of anxious parenting, acting as a mediator of sorts for parent and caretaker, at a rate of $200 an hour. She draws from her experiences, both as a mother to two daughters under 3 (she is married to Matt Donnelly, a TV writer), and as a former nanny to clients like the director Stephen Gaghan and his wife, Minnie Mortimer, a fashion designer and socialite.

“I remember her solving a conflict with the kids, who were 5 and 6,” Ms. Mortimer said. “She had them calm down and use their ‘I’ statements. Our little girl said, ‘I don’t feel safe when you throw a Lego at my head.’ Our boy said, ‘I feel that throwing a Lego at your head is the only way to get your attention.’ She treated them with such respect and dignity.”

The article is here.  For the pointer I thank @DanielMoerner.


I love New York. Everybody in Flyover America should dispassionately study what New Yorkers do (not, of course, what they say) for lessons in how to get what they want.

Seems she is catering to their parents. Don't kids learn more from a mild spanking on the fanny than from "I" statements? Of course you could go to jail for parenting like that. No I don't have kids.

Those statements will get them what they want when they grow up.

If they make it.

Are we talking Legos here or Duplos?

kids were over 3, so probably legos. duplos exist only cuz legos are a choking hazard for younger kids.

There's no such thing as 'a Lego'. Lego is plural. That's 'a Lego brick' or 'piece' that they're throwing. You'd have thought a nanny could have put them right on that, at least.

And to be fair, throwing a straight jab at her head would surely get her attention.

My sisters and my daughters were all made a lot more resilient (tougher) by older brothers.

As the father of a 4 year old, it's ridiculously easy to tell which of my daughter's classmates have older brothers. Much harder to tell who has an older sister.

As for the article: stupid, but probably harmless

They are the ones with 6x2 dimples?

This is going back to when they were a little younger, but it's the ones who are using super-powers to kill everyone else.

Dr. Heller missed an opportunity to introduce young Mortimer to baseball, or, given their tenor, Lacrosse.

Surely they threw an assemblage of pieces? A single brick is unlikely to phase a child. It should have been ‘I feel that throwing Lego at your head is the only way to get your attention.’

Vaguely on topic link to awesomeness:

Perhaps there should be a corollary to the "There is No Great Stagnation" category, called "Service Economies Create New Jobs Too" or something like that.

Well, at least she seems to advocate for the nannies too, and at a pretty reasonable price.

"Dr Heller": hee, hee, hee.

This proves that a diploma mill with, typically, 3,000 graduate psych students, is providing just the sort of "therapists" LA and NYC need.

OK, those kids freak me out a little.

Preying of the fearful is generally a good business model.

Usually works best where there is a lot of disposable funding to be tapped. E.g. rich parents, the USG, etc.

"That was her suggestion for Desiree Gruber, an executive producer of “Project Runway” who is married to the actor Kyle MacLachlan, with whom she has a 4-year-old son, Callum. They live on two coasts and employ four nannies."

This is not the culture of New York. This is the culture of the elites, who are highly mobile, but often find themselves in New York because of their work. The overwhelming majority of people in New York are working and middle class. Even the upper-middle class yuppies that aspire to this sort of foolishness aren't in a position to pull it off.

More specifically, this is LA. At least, that's where the good Dr is.

Our we breeding "parenting" out of our DNA? or, are we breeding "stupidity" in?


'We' aren't. The superrich maybe, but then haven't they always left the childrearing to others?

Minnie is an Heiress to the Standard Oil fortune. I'm guessing her fashion design is not profitable and a hobby and that she's a full time socialite.

I'm also guessing that there hasn't been a real mother in her family for generations and that she, and her mother, etc, were brought up by a nanny or someone other than a parent.

Maybe she should get Woodward and Sperling to sit down. Sperling "I want to send a drone to circle your house and fire a hellfire when you are sitting on the can". Woodware "I see you as a strutting punk that needs to be knocked down a notch or two".

Should work fine.

Re-file under "The culture that is LA". Although reported in the NY Times, her practice is based on Beverly Hills. (Though at one of her clients is cited as "Bi-Coastal").

you want more stuff like this, surveil

This entry reminds of an previous post Tyler made regarding the nouveau-rich in China ... The gist of that post, if I recall correctly, was to point out the practice of wasteful spending on luxury items no one really needs

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